Wise Words from Sharon

"How many times do you smile in a day? Such a simple act. Perhaps you’ll tell me that you smile often…. Okay, fair enough. Then I ask, how many strangers do you smile at? Do you make an attempt of smiling at those you don’t know? Even when you are dealing with sh*t in yer life? Or do you forget? Are you so busy in yer life that you think to yerself: “Nice concept Sharon… but in reality I can’t always be smiling. I’ve got this and this and this to do. I need to deal with that and then when I’m done I’ll smile at someone.” Mmm, shame. Perhaps you’ll pass someone by who is dealing with more than you and is beggin fer a reason to hold on and maybe jest maybe yer smile will be the rope that they are searching for, needing even...People don’t smile enough. I am a people watcher. I observe how people act while I’m out and yeah…. People don’t smile. This saddens me.

Gawd, let me never forget to smile. Even when I’m in pain, when I’m down… when I can’t breathe. Let me smile, even then. Cause perhaps I will be giving a gift to someone and then in turn perhaps they will be kind enough to smile back and give me my second wind.

Have you smiled today? Have you given anyone their second breath. You might at this point say to me: Well Sharon, so I smile. I’ll never know if my smile meant anything to anyone. To this I say… Does that matter if you don’t know? It isn’t about you anyway. Are you seeking recognition? Mmm then don’t smile. Cause that’s not what it’s about. Give. Give freely. No strings. No expectations. Jest smile and continue on yer way. And if this isn’t enough for you and you need to have something in it fer yerself…. Well then remember this: Yer face value increases when you smile. It changes how you look. But this shouldn’t be the reason that you do.

"Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be - a roommate, a neighbour, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a complete stranger - but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.

"Ever have one of those days where everything seems as bad as it can possibly be and yer stressing big time? You know what I'm talking about? Everything seems bleak and yer tryin yer hardest to stay focused and keep that smile on yer face... maintain a brave outlook but inside yer paddling hard, yer bailing out a sinking boat with a tin can and yer arms are getting real tired? Yeah, you with me so far? And then outta nowhere comes hope... comes strength... comes incredible comfort and you get yer second wind. Suddenly yer breathing again and the tears that you were crying a few minutes ago, you are still crying but the reason has changed for why they are now falling. Now you are crying out of gratitude and love..."

"When it comes to sex guys are firemen and women are fire. Clarification. Imagine a firehouse.... alarms go off what happens? The firemen are prepared. They are down that pole and suiting up faster than you can spit. They speed towards the scene of the blaze (faster than lightening not letting anything get in their way) and upon reaching their destination they do the job they set out to do. They consume the fire.

Women are like fire. The conditions need to be in place for the fire to happen. Everything has to be right. All the ingredients have to be there and then the fire happens slow.. (okay okay sometimes there is an explosion but we're talkin bout yer run of the mill, average fire here) first there is a spark then a slow burning, then something substantial catches and yeah... fire can go out of control.

Now yer probably wondering why the heck I started on about all this. Well, it's like this...as a fireman he is ready, willing and very capable to do the job he feels he needs or wants to do. You on the other hand are more in control. Cause let's face it.... are all of the conditions right for a fire if it's a case of him jest speakin yer name? Jest walking by you? Don't think so.

Imagine a dedicated fireman being asked to walk by and not react to a third alarm blaze. Not so easy

Being in control ain't so bad as long as you can understand what the other person is going through. And as long as yer consistent and firm (in an empathic manner) then there is nothing to fear. And yeah, count on having to remind Mr. Fireman that the blaze can be left alone.... that the blaze isn't really a blaze (at least from where yer standing) it's jest a bunch of smoke and he doesn't need to be reactin like an explosion is occuring.

Patience... understanding.... communication..... while keeping yer standards are very important."